BED Help and Support with Nadine Ann

What have you been resisting? Now think about this - what we resist persists in every aspect of our lives. If you are trying to sell your house but are having trouble perhaps you are resisting for whatever reason it is. You may not even be aware of it consciously but subconsciously you are. Maybe you are afraid to sell your house because you will be moving from your friends and that makes you sad. Subconsciously you are resisting the sale of your home!

Here is another example. I resisted finding the man of my dreams because I was not ready to give up my role as a single mother. You may think that sounds ludicrous but its true! I kept telling myself that I wanted to meet a great guy but all I kept meeting was the wrong guy. I later figured out that I wasn't ready to give up sharing my life with my daughter and traveling all over the world to settle down. But when I finally got to the bottom of my issues I realized it was ok to settle down if I found the right guy and we could all travel together and keep the lifestyle that I loved.


So think about what you are resisting or what isn;t working in your life and ask yourself what you think it is that you are resisting? Usually whatever you resist is what you need to work on the most!

What are you resisting and how did you figure it out? Post your comments here!!!!!
-Nadine

Hi, this is Jess - I think I was resisting getting better becasue I didn't know how that was going to feel. I have had an eating disorder for so long that I wasn't sure I could do without it. That's crazy! So I think I was resisting but now I see it was just making it hang around longer.

I think that makes sense Jess cuz for me the disorder serves a purpose and is comforting- it also allows me to avoid things I am scared of: intimacy, uncomfortable emotions. Scary to change.

It's amazing how this disorder makes you think you are making yourself feel better by having the disorder as you mentioned, (havetojr), but in reality the disorder is a result of something bigger. At first food is comforting because it takes your mind off of what is wrong. It acts as an intermediate bandaid but then the bandaid gets worn and doesn't protect the wound any longer. Then the wound gets bigger and infected. No more bandaids...It's time for penicillin!

I agree with you, change can seem scary. That's why we go very slow in the program. The key is to become friends with every part of your being. To get your mind and body to be on the same page takes love and time.

Can you recall a time in your life when you felt truly happy? What did that feel like? Can you describe it? Can you totally recall every moment of that detail? Being happy was a feeling you felt based on thoughts you were having. It can be the same now. You can feel happy without the disorder based on your thoughts. Take it really slow, let the good happen to you in your life now, in this moment. Smile right now! Think of this positive affirmation for a few days. "Happiness is for everyone, including me".

What are you thinking?
-Nadine