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B. Understanding Emotions
by Admin on Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:37 pm
It's probably safe to say that our emotions are how we got to this place to begin with right! Well, yes, kind of.
You worked on finding the root cause of your disorder and once you realized the root cause you were able to begin working on the emotions that are associated with that cause. Here is what I mean by that. This is an entry from my blog.
"Think about this for a moment. Let’s say you were raised by very strict parents who never showed you love. They ignored you. They compared you to your brother or sister. They hit you. They yelled at you until their voices went hoarse.
Do you know what has happened to you?
Do you know what the one common denominator is for everyone who has been through these circumstances?
Do you want to blame your parents for the rest of your life for treating you so horribly?
Most people do stay in the blame mode and never move on. They turn to food as a way to control something in their life when they feel as though they can’t control their circumstances. Food becomes the outlet. But then, because food was never meant to act in that capacity of comfort, they begin to lose control and the issue then becomes an eating disorder when all along it was abuse from their parents.
Do you think if the person works on healing their feelings about their parents that their eating disorder will go away? NO! NO! NO! It will not go away. Why? Because although the parents were the reason behind the neglect, it is the neglect itself that is the root cause.
The person needs to deal with the root cause which is the feelings neglect has left on them. What the person needs to heal is a feeling of worthlessness. Not feeling good enough to be loved. Not feeling good enough for anything is the problem.
Wow! What a difference that makes in the whole process of healing doesn’t it? All this time you thought that if you dealt with the parents the rest would go away but that’s not true!"
Do you see how we are working on the feelings associated with the cause?
What are you feeling now? And what do you do when you are angry or sad or stressed out? Let's talk about it here!
-Nadine
You worked on finding the root cause of your disorder and once you realized the root cause you were able to begin working on the emotions that are associated with that cause. Here is what I mean by that. This is an entry from my blog.
"Think about this for a moment. Let’s say you were raised by very strict parents who never showed you love. They ignored you. They compared you to your brother or sister. They hit you. They yelled at you until their voices went hoarse.
Do you know what has happened to you?
Do you know what the one common denominator is for everyone who has been through these circumstances?
Do you want to blame your parents for the rest of your life for treating you so horribly?
Most people do stay in the blame mode and never move on. They turn to food as a way to control something in their life when they feel as though they can’t control their circumstances. Food becomes the outlet. But then, because food was never meant to act in that capacity of comfort, they begin to lose control and the issue then becomes an eating disorder when all along it was abuse from their parents.
Do you think if the person works on healing their feelings about their parents that their eating disorder will go away? NO! NO! NO! It will not go away. Why? Because although the parents were the reason behind the neglect, it is the neglect itself that is the root cause.
The person needs to deal with the root cause which is the feelings neglect has left on them. What the person needs to heal is a feeling of worthlessness. Not feeling good enough to be loved. Not feeling good enough for anything is the problem.
Wow! What a difference that makes in the whole process of healing doesn’t it? All this time you thought that if you dealt with the parents the rest would go away but that’s not true!"
Do you see how we are working on the feelings associated with the cause?
What are you feeling now? And what do you do when you are angry or sad or stressed out? Let's talk about it here!
-Nadine
